We’ve all experienced physical pain at some time. The thing about pain … it rivets your attention and demands to be heard. Your body is, in essence, screaming for you to pay attention!
Years ago I broke my leg in a horseback riding accident and had to spend time convalescing. It was the most excruciating pain I had ever experienced
After weeks of on-going pain and discomfort, I noticed how tired and despondent I began to feel. I had already been enduring months of conflict, sabotage and resistance within a community project in which I was deeply vested, and now the physical pain seemed more than I could bear
Pain had disrupted my ability to sleep, to enjoy simple pleasures, to make good judgments, and to concentrate on work. Through continually tensing myself to resist the pain, it had also disrupted the functions of my entire body
Months after the accident I was at an empowerment workshop and had to fill out a detailed questionnaire about my life, my family, and my past. Painful memories were forced into mind. The more detailed the questions and information I had to provide, the more tired, achy and despondent I became. It even took effort to breathe and to concentrate
I began to notice some startling similarities to how I physically felt after breaking my leg. It felt identical to the tiredness and despondency that had overwhelmed me after experiencing physical pain for so long. That’s when I realized the broken leg was actually a result of my own unexpressed deep emotional despair and frustration. Pain was the consequence of unresolved intense negative feelings about a situation I could not change or fix
"When something within us is disowned, that which is disowned wreaks havoc" Ralph H Blum and Susan Coughan
We all carry emotional baggage to varying degrees--painful childhood memories, grief over the loss of a loved one, the devastation of a marriage or relationship break up, the trauma of physical or sexual violation. Who hasn't suffered rejection, betrayal, hardship, failure, shame, longing, guilt, injustice, loss of self-esteem, or sorrow to some degree?
It's easier to believe there is a way around experiencing sorrow, that we can avoid pain and lose nothing of the fullness and joy of living. But, it takes a lot more energy to store pain than it does to confront it
Harbouring negative feelings is tantamount to taking poison. Damaging neuropeptides are released in your body in response to negative feelings such as anger, resentment, bitterness, sorrow, self pity, anxiety, stress, stubbornness and fear. These neuropeptides accumulate in different areas of your body, weakening those areas so that they become readily susceptible to injury or degeneration
So, ignoring your painful feelings really doesn’t make the hurt go away. Your body-mind-soul will only change strategies to be heard in a much louder and less avoidable way. One way or another, pain demands to be heard
"A wound not fully felt consumes from the inside. We must run very hard if we want to stay one step ahead of this pain" Oriah Mountain Dreamer
It's easy to see why painkillers become addictive. They provide blissful escape from physical pain which allows you to escape your emotional pain. But, they don't heal emotional pain. They just hide it. When you stop taking pain-killers, you are left wide open to face your emotional pain, from which you again try to escape. And so the addiction loop continues ...
HOW BIG IS YOUR SACK OF EMOTIONAL PAIN?
A teacher asked her students to each bring to school a sack of potatoes. For every painful experience they could recall, and for every person they could not forgive in their life, each student had to choose a potato and then carve into it the name of the person, the incident, and the date of the occurrence
For an entire month the students were required to carry around their personalized sack of potatoes at all times. It lay beside their bed at night, sat with them at lunch and on the bus, and while they were with friends
The hassle of lugging around this load, and the putrid smell it began to emit, soon made it profoundly clear what a weight and preponderance of negativity the students were carrying around emotionally. The people whose names were inscribed on the potatoes were not in the least affected by the heavy burden
It seemed a rather high price to pay to hold onto people, situations and emotions that were of no positive value in their lives. The students began to see forgiveness and letting go as a gift to themselves, rather than a gift to others
We want you to have this gift, too! Enlightened Feelings flower essence remedies can gently heal the emotional scars that cause your emotional pain, and help to bring forgiveness and inner peace into your life. These essences can help prompt your brain to choose more positive thought patterns
Ask yourself this ... If you felt happy and completely in balance, do you think your choices and decisions would be different? Do you think your life might change?
How amazing would it be if you could do something RIGHT NOW to invite positive change into your life?