OK ... I admit it ... I have never been able to compromise well.  I just can't pretend that something is OK when it isn't.  I resent censoring the things I need in my life in order to try and make someone else happy.  I've learned that it really doesn't make them happy either.  And, more importantly I begin to suffer with insecurity and self-doubt when I am not being true to myself and living authentically.  

From a young age we are taught through punishment and reward to behave in a way that will elicit the acceptance, love and security we desire.  We all want to 'fit in', to belong and feel loved and accepted.  And so we follow the latest fads--dress and ......