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12 Hidden Reasons You Can't Lose Weight ...



Every day we receive amazing testimonials about the results people achieve using our essence remedies and custom formulas.  So, you can imagine how disconcerted we felt when we discovered our weight loss remedy was rather 'hit and miss'.  With some people it would achieve great results.  With others, nothing at all

That meant our remedy wasn't addressing ALL the issues surrounding an inability to lose weight.  So, we put out a request on Facebook for volunteers to participate in a field trial study for a new weight loss remedy

We tested lots of individuals to find a better remedy ... and uncovered startling information.  We found at least a dozen different reasons why a person retains weight and is unable to lose it.  Or is able to lose weight but then quickly regains it again.   TWELVE different unconscious beliefs!!  WOW!

Our weight loss formula addressed defensiveness and over-nurturing--what we thought were the two main causes of weight gain in a person who was making healthy food choices and exercising.  No wonder our remedy didn't always work!

Here are some of the common issues we found ...

Survival ~ Scarcity ~ Defense ~ Control Issues ~ PunishmentEmotional Starvation ~ Spiritual Starvation ~ Reward ~ Over-nurturing ~ Lack of Nurturing ~ Negative Self-image ~ Nursing Old Hurts ~  Suppressing ~ Invalidation ~ Self-indulgence

Were we to create a different remedy for each individual cause of weight gain?   That proved just too overwheming and daunting a task.  So we simply cancelled the field trial and discontinued our weight loss remedy

We began to realize that maybe we already had remedies that could work...remedies we had already created for other purposes.  These remedies were already addressing the very issues we are finding in people with weight loss problems.  The key is simply to correctly identify the mental pattern(s) a person holds, and then apply the appropriate remedy to overwrite it.  When combined with healthy eating and exercise, the weight will gradually diminish without regaining it again

For example...

Eating for any reason other than nutrition is emotional eating.  So eating can be both a physical and emotional survival strategy

Your body tells the truth even when you don't.  Whether it is saying "I am not fine" by over-eating, or manifesting pain, or health issues, the truth is revealed through your body

When you experience starvation, even for a short time, your body switches to 'survival mode'.  Your body might be remembering not enough mother's milk as a baby, or scarcity as a child, hunger from constant dieting, emotional starvation, or maybe even starvation in a previous incarnation

     Your brain cannot tell the difference between physical starvation and emotional starvation.  Both states release the same neuro-peptides that tell your body to begin 'saving for a rainy day' to stave off future starvation 

     Perhaps you are eating food, but not receiving nutrition from it.  Eating foods that are  'empty' of nutrition can make your body and brain feel starved!  These include processed (packaged) foods and non-organic produce.  These foods also lack enzymes to help you digest them, which can compromise your ability to absorb what you eat.  That's why 'empty calories' such as junk food can cause you to gain weight
     When your body experiences starvation and then receives food, your cells now want to store it in the form of energy-rich fat, to save for future scarcity.  Fat cells form a layer underneath the skin and act as a cushion to the surrounding body tissues and organs. As your body stores more and more fat, the number of fat cells remains the same. Each fat cell simply expands!  Hence, weight gain can occur even when you eat very little.  In this case, an essence remedy such as 'Abundance' or 'I Feel Blessed' might be helpful   

So, fat cells protect you by literally forming a cushion between you and the world.  It's rather like using bubble wrap to protect your delicate china!  This is a useful defense mechanism when you are very sensitive, easily hurt, or feel bullied, verbally, physically or sexually abused, or unsafe.  Another person's energy can affect you in a multitude of ways.  It can leave you feeling very vulnerable, drained, or off-balance.  And that can make you obsess about staying in control and holding your own space.  Food may feel like the only thing you can control.   Try Control Release followed by one of our Empowering Remedies     

An essence such as Shield or Clear & Protect can effortlessly provide the feeling of safety and protection you need.  Social Butterfly can help you to feel open and receptive so you can engage with others comfortably in social activities

Do you have a fear or distaste of intimacy or sex with your partner?  Have you been sexually abused or assaulted?  Becoming unattractive to a partner, or setting a physical barrier can be a way to maintain distance and autonomy when you feel helpless to prevent violation.  Respect Me! instills inner strength and self-comfort that promotes respect from others and helps you stand your ground.  Sexual Abuse Release can remove the emotional trauma that causes you to keep your distance from partners

Perhaps you've had your heart broken and now are more distrustful in relationships.  You've now created a physical 'wall' as well as an emotional one to keep others at a distance.  Heartbreak Heal or Love Empowered are helpful for emotional defensiveness 

A fat 'shield' is also useful when you are unable to set healthy boundaries or speak up about what you want or need, or about what you don't want.  Mothers--especially new moms--tend to fit this category.  
'Martyrs' are very loving gentle souls with an overly-developed sense of responsibility or duty.  They want to nurture others and ensure everyone gets their needs met.  But, it happens at their own expense

Be Kind to Yourself essence remedy can help to restore healthy self-care.  Support helps to replenish you when you everyone else but you is receiving nurturing.  Nurturer in Balance helps you to hold your loving energy without losing your balance and becoming over-nurturing or a rescuer   

Using food to suppress or avoid your negative feelings   Sometimes feelings are so painful, raw, or shameful and embarrassing that we try to avoid them, suppress them, or numb the pain.  We do this with 'feel good' nurturing things such as food.  Weight becomes a way to hide your feelings

Until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed.  You can assuage the pain with food, alcohol, drugs, etc, but eventually the emotional effects of your past will leak out and stain your life.  Only when you decide to step out of your history by healing it, can you become free.  We have many essence fusions to help you effortlessly heal your past 

Invalidation  Perhaps you don't feel you have the courage or feel the right to express anger, or speak up about what you perceive as a lack of fairness.  This is often learned in childhood, when you were punished for speaking up or expressing your feelings.  Instead of venting, you learned to eat, swallowing your feelings, stress, shame or frustration.  Invalidation becomes the root of your need to eat.  You begin to use food as a substitute for not getting your own emotional needs met 

Holding energy back in your throat area may result in thyroid malfunction (metabolic and hormonal imbalance) or even more severe disorders such as Lupus or other autoimmune diseases.  Thyroid disorders, in particular, are common in women who nurture and care for others, but abandon themselves or do not nurture themselves in healthy ways.     Love Yourself, Be Kind To Yourself, and Self Esteem are the perfect antidotes to promote self love! 

A physical 'fat barrier' can also result from negative self image or lack or personal empowerment. A physical barrier becomes a shield to hold people at a distance, or a way to punish or castigate yourself, or even a way to prove that you are unlovable.  

Weight gain related to self-image tends to collect in the stomach area.  My Authentic Self, Respect Me!, Empowerment and Self Esteem essence remedies help to increase self-acceptance and self-empowerment

It can also be a way to control or punish others  Excess weight can be an unconscious way to punish parents or a spouse for not giving you what you need.  ("Look what you have done to me!")  Or, you might set up a physical 'fat' barrier against control or dominance by a parent, boss or spouse

Are you rebelling against control?  Food and what you put into your body may feel like the only thing you can control.   Try one of our Empowering Remedies

Some people have learned to use food such as sweets as an 'emotional cookie' after they have been hurt.  When you were a child, perhaps your mother or grandma gave you a treat to stop you from crying

The aim was to distract you from your emotional pain.  But, what it inadvertently taught you was, "you shouldn't acknowledge your feelings", "find ways to distract yourself from your feelings', and, "you will find nurturing and comfort from food".  Deeply ingrained negative beliefs such as this need the power of a essence remedy such as Deep Wounds of Childhood or Forgive My Past

Yearning causes emotional starvation.  What are you starved for? ...  Love, belonging, affection, acceptance, nurturing, safety?  Try one of the Inner Child Rescue remedies

Or, is your heart and mind starved for fulfillment, excitement, or growth?  Failing to follow your heart causes spiritual starvation.  Try Align to your Destiny

Fat cells act as a thermo-suit to your body, helping to maintain optimal body temperature.  Fat is also important in energy metabolism--it feeds your body in times of need.  So, wouldn't your fat cells try to compensate to nourish and feed you in another way?  Your cells tell your body "Honey, I will love you, I will feed you, I will nurture you". The essence remedies Be Kind to Yourself and Love Yourself provide healthy self-nurturing  

Are you nursing old hurts, emotional wounds, or holding onto the past or negative ideas and beliefs that aren't serving you?  Are you 'weighed down' by the past and all the emotional burdens and hurts you are still holding onto?  The energetic 'weight' of these burdens accumulates in your auric field and translates to your physical body.  It's like layers of energetic clothing--an old wardrobe you are refusing to discard 

     You might also retain water (edema or congestive heart failure)--swelling in your legs, ankles, hands, or around your heart (congestive heart failure).  Your lymph system, which nourishes your cells and carrries toxins away for elimination, has become stagnant, holding onto toxins instead of releasing that which you no longer need.  Essence remedies Deep Wounds of Childhood, Forgive My Past, Forgiveness, or Heartbreak Heal to the rescue!   

Those who are empathic or overly nurturing, often take on the emotional debris and energies of those around them.  If you aren't protecting or clearing yourself constantly, you may gain weight in proportion to the emotional and energetic extra weight with which you are burdening yourself.  If you are a nurse, counsellor or emotional healer of any kind, an energyworker or a psychic, your natural nurturing tendancies may be the reason you can't lose weight.  Clear & Protect and Shield are essences that can be very helpful in clearing the energetic debris of others from your own auric field.  Support helps to replenish you when you aren't receiving nurturing  

Has life has lost its joy and sweetness for you?  Are you just going through the motions?  Are you denying yourself pleasure and beauty and not doing things that make your heart sing?  In that case, you may be rendering your body unable to utilize sugars properly ... weight gain!

When you fail to follow your heart, obesity could be how your body compensates.  You must feed your soul as well as your body.  Are you starved for fullfillment and purpose?  Have you abandoned your dreams or longings?  Have you been denied those pleasures or activities that make your heart sing?  Try Align to Your Destiny

Self indulgence is an emotional substitute for a lack of joy, excitement, fulfillment, enrichment, or purpose.  You long, crave, or yearn for something intangible...and mood-altering foods become the closest your body can relate to this feeling.  Junk food, chocolate or sugar cause a quick 'high', so they can become an emotional substitute for spiritual fulfillment.  Try Beat the Cravings or Align to Your Destiny

Junk foods and sugar cause a hyper-adrenal response in the body--a quick 'rush'.  Unfortunately, adrenalin is addictive.  And it quickly overtaxes your metabolism.  Stress Buster, Flow or Chill Out can help calm the adrenals.  Beat the Cravings or Breaking Bad Habits can help to calm the cravings or addiction.  If you really need resolve, add Strength and Resolve with one of these supportive essences.   I Feel Blessed, Flow, or Carefree may help to restore some joy to your life


Why you can't keep to your diet or exercise regime?  When you diet or exercise to lose weight, you are telling your body and brain "I am flawed.  There is something wrong with me."  Your brain then sees dieting as punishment and deprivation.  That's why you quickly lose your ability to maintain a diet or exercise program.  You feel it as punishment and self-criticism, not reward or something that is helpful and loving toward yourself

With so many potential causes for weight gain, and a strong reason not to maintain your diet, you may continue to be unsuccessful in losing weight permanently until you establish the exact emotional cause or causes.  We can assist.  Our custom testing protocol will quickly find your deeply held issues and unique emotional triggers.  A custom remedy will be designed just for you.  And we will work with you through the entire process.   We offer both in-house testing and photo-testing for those who live at a distance 




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