When I was in my early 20’s I was madly in love for the first time.  But, the young man I was wanted to marry was given an opportunity to work abroad for 6 months, earning 4X his normal income.  

He asked me what he should do.  My heart cried out, wanting to say ‘Don’t go!  Please stay with me’.  But, I didn’t want to get in the way of such an amazing career opportunity, thinking that he might later resent me for it.  So, instead of saying what was in my heart, allowing him to make his decision with all the facts present, I reverted to the detached comfort of logic.  I simply said “Well, if it were me, I wouldn’t let anyone get in the way of my career.” &......