One of the most common mistaken beliefs is that emotions are the domain of humans.  Religion has taught us that man alone has the capacity to feel emotions.  And while that fallacy persists, it is simply not true. 

EVERY LIVING THING that has a nervous system of some kind experiences emotions--this includes plants, trees, animals, insects, reptiles, birds, fish, and humans.  In fact, it has now been proven that even a single-celled organism is aware and seeks safety and comfort.   

Emotions are an innate part of your sensory system.  So, they are integral to all life.  Actually they are your 7th sense. 

And, just like each of your other senses, emotions have a specific job or purpose.  They tell you whether or not your needs are being met.  Happy feelings = all is right in my world.  Negative feelings = something is wrong.  I have a need that is not being met.  And I need to fix that.

This is why negative emotions tend to feel 'louder'.  They do actually have a stronger amplitude because they oscillate at a long, low frequency.  Think of the bass wave-length on your speakers. 

You have 7 basic needs.  Safety (security) ~ happiness ~ fairness ~ belonging ~ love ~ self-esteem ~ challenge/personal growth ~ fulfillment.  Positive emotions affirm that those needs are being met.  Your negative emotions tell you which need is NOT being met. 

Emotion literally means Energy in Motion.  By having a stronger intensity, negative emotions ensure they are felt and heard, so that you can take action to get your needs met. 

So, exactly what are your negative emotions really trying to tell you? 

Fear = I don't feel safe. 

Stress = The problem seems bigger than me.

Anger = This isn't fair 

Guilt = I did something to someone that wasn't fair or just

Boredom = I need challenges to grow and feel fulfilled 

Grief or Loneliness = I've lost something that I love.  My love now has nowhere to go

Shame = I don't feel good about myself.  I'm not proud of myself

Depression = I'm not listening to my emotions.  I don't know how to get my needs met (or I'm not getting my needs met).  So, I've given up even trying. 

One of the things we do when custom-coaching our clients is to teach you how to connect with what you are feeling, pinpoint what need is not being met, and proactively act in a way that gets your needs met in healthy, non-confrontational ways. 

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