We find that one of the most common reasons why people seem to become stuck in their life is because they are looking backward instead of forward.  It seems like such an obvious cause.  But, surprisingly, almost everyone seems to do this 

When you experience a traumatic or upsetting event, it is natural to want to rehash what happened in your mind to try to resolve or reconcile it.  But, if you become stuck in the event or obsess about what you could or should have done, your focus remains in the past, and you cannot see the future  

Where attention goes, energy flows.  And so the event becomes more prominent in your mind, taking up all your thoughts and feelings without resolution.  Your life .........