Have you ever noticed that people see you differently than you see yourself?
Most often it is your family who sees you through a different lens. Why do you think that happens? Is it because you alter yourself to ‘fit in’ and belong?
We are born as our natural selves. We LEARN to be something else in order to belong and fit in. Belonging helps us to stay safe. We learn this first with our family.
Using shame, criticism, or humiliation to parent causes children to perceive they are unworthy. They start to believe love must be earned, that they are not lovable unless they are perfect, that they are different and don’t fit in.
You become conditioned to ......
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