February 19, 2024 @ 9:00 AM
One of our most essential basic needs is to belong. We instinctively want to feel safe, loved, understood and accepted
If we are lucky, we get this from our family. But, not every person's childhood is warm and fuzzy. For most people, family is our greatest challenge and source of pain
Humans are pack or herd animals. We find safety within a group. But to find this safety, conformity is necessary
Studies show that when a herd animal such as a zebra or monkey has an 'X' painted on it, it becomes shunned and rejected by the other members of its pack. And yet, belonging isn't always the best thing for us. Love and performance do not go together. It keeps us trapped in playing roles. It prevents us from from sharing our unique talents and being extraordinary!
You deserve to be loved just as you are. The art of happy co-existant living comes from success at becoming your true self and then loving yourself just as you are. In this way others can love you, too
"Love is the miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives" Louise Hay
You will never be able to please everyone all the time. To even try to do so is an indication that you are acting, pandering to please others in order to gain approval, acceptance, and to fit in
There is a BIG difference between FITTING IN and BELONGING
Wanting to fit in and be accepted places your power and fate in the hands of others and keeps you always off balance. Acting to make someone love or accept you will always leave you feeling insecure, off balance, needy, jealous and envious. You will never feel truly loved or secure, and may even secretly feel that you don't have a right to be here
Belonging is a state of being that starts within you. It holds your power and inner balance
Belonging comes from an acceptance and deep understanding that you are of value to others. You have a purpose and a destiny. Belonging comes from feeling connected to something larger than yourself. It is not only a state of loving yourself, it is a state of feeling loved and embraced by something larger than you
When you achieve your own sense of belonging and self-love, you will find that love from others is a natural bi-product. You will feel secure and in balance, and you will truly understand and appreciate your value to others
To assist you, we have developed a collection of amazing empowering essences. MY AUTHENTIC SELF is especially helpful at helping you be honest with yourself and others. It allows you to be comfortable in your own skin, so you can interact from a place of authenticity. MY AUTHENTIC SELF also enables you to set boundaries and be more aware of your own needs, so that you can hold your own space when in the company of others
SELF ACCEPTANCE is another wonderful essence fusion that helps you to be completely comfortable within yourself and accepting of your flaws
HOLDING MY OWN SPACE can help you hold your balance, set boundaries and meet your own needs when in a relationship
Perhaps you've been taught that it isn't 'nice' to express anger, or disagree with others. Perhaps you are a perfectionist and judge your own mistakes harshly. Or, maybe you were excessively criticized as a child, and that led you to believe you aren't good enough as you are, or that you have to 'earn' love from others. Perhaps you are simply trying to become a more enlightened or spiritual person, and you mistakenly believe that to become enlightened you have to be perfect. You think you can't be flawed or possess negative qualities if you want to reach this lofty goal
What follows is a kind of separation, dis-owning, or disconnect from self. The negative aspects of personality can actually move to the outside of your being. You, or energy healers or intuitives may mistakenly see or feel this as an 'entity' or dark shadows, and not recognize that is it really your disowned shadow self
We ALL possess both light and dark, yin and yang. It is this duality that creates balance and completion with us. When the sun shines on the earth, does not one side remain cloaked in darkness? And does this limiting darkness soon fade into light, while the light becomes dark? Balance between light and dark is God's perfection. But, that is quite often different than our own limited perception of perfection
Self-acceptance and re-integration is needed if you want to be able to shift into your true destiny. SOUL RETRIEVAL can help
SOUL RETRIEVAL is helpful when you have disowned parts of yourself. Sometimes this occurs during trauma or shock, such as an accident, sexual abuse, head trauma, or near-death experience. But, more often it occurs from perceived criticism or judgments by others, which causes self-judgment or guilt about your own negative attributes
"Within everyone there is light and shadow, good and evil, love and hate. In order to be truthful, you must embrace your total being. A person who exhibits both positive and negative qualities, strengths, and weaknesses is not flawed, but complete" Deepak Chopra
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